It can be a difficult to admit that your sex life is not what you would like it to be but you’re not alone. Busy lifestyles and heavy workloads can put pressure on a relationship and especially on your sex life. It is a common problem for most couples in a long term relationship.
There are many people who wish their sex life was better. If you and your partner have good, open communication – which every good relationship should have – then you’re halfway to improving your sex life. The topic needs to be approached sensitively. You don’t want to scare them with a big heavy talk and a list of demands!
Instead, there are small things you can do every day to start improving the quality of your sex life. Follow these tips below to help set the scene.
1. I bet you…
Play a flirty game with them. Place a little bet on something. Whoever loses has to cook dinner in the other partner’s outfit of choice.
2. Flirty fun
It can be easy to overlook how we are interacting with our partner when we’re rushed, tired and feeling overwhelmed. Take the time to give them a compliment or smile. Tease and have a laugh. Having fun and enjoying being together are the most important parts of a relationship and can lead to a deeper connection in the bedroom.
3. Look at me!
You need to invest time in improving your sex life and who doesn’t like to be paid attention? Get your partner in the mood by asking them about their day, listen and ask questions. Don’t fake it! Be genuinely interested but don’t overdo it either. Simple, non-sexual strategies can work just as well.
4. Touch me
This one is especially for the ladies. Sit down next to him and ‘accidentally’ brush your breasts up against his arm. He’ll definitely notice.
5. Looking good
Tracksuit pants may be comfortable around the house but they won’t light any fires in the boudoir. If you spend most of your time together in the evening, dress to impress, even if you’re hanging out to get into your sweats. It will pay off later, even if you’re not in the mood tonight.
6. Do you feel sexy?
Do little things to make you feel sexy. Try wearing your favourite underwear or cologne to work. Tell your partner what you’re doing – have a giggle over your little secret.
7. Let’s play pretend
Nobody else except your partner knows that your bedroom life isn’t all you want it to be. Act confidently and you will begin to feel more confident. Other people will notice your positive and self-assured attitude, including your partner. As you begin to feel more confident, you will find it easier to address problems with your partner.
Start slowly and remember how to enjoy your time together. Commit to making time for each other and you will be on the right track to improving your sex life.